Why narcissists find it hard to ask for forgiveness.

Why narcissists find it hard to ask for forgiveness.

Narcissistic Politics in Intimate Relationships 

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 On the go, a narcissist who follows an outsourced strategy may seem charming, confident and even thoughtful. But there are some things that narcissists never do, especially when it comes to relationships. For example, you will never see them asking for forgiveness or trying to make good the damage they caused, and they never acknowledge their mistakes. Experts in the matter argue that this is due to their egocentric and dominant approach, which often means a total lack of empathy.

In all relationships, whether romantic, platonic, or family-related, disagreements and frictions are common. And besides this, it also happens that we offend or hurt someone without even being aware of it. In such cases, it is wise to ask for forgiveness in a sincere way, so that we can build trust again and learn from this experience. The goal is to make sure that it doesn't happen again.

The more socially and emotionally intelligent you are, the more likely it is that you will not only ask for forgiveness, but that you will do it as effectively as possible. A person who is emotionally competent and mature meets different situations with honesty, openness and a desire to correct things.

But what happens when we have narcissists to do? Surveys, such as that performed by Joost M. Leunissen and Constantine Sedikides at the University of Southampton, provide a clear answer. Narcissists do not always have a bad conscience for the wrongdoing they do.

This means that even if they feel socially pressured to repair the damage, they experience an internal conflict and even harassment when they are forced to do so. The reason for this is that they wrestle with their own will.

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Narcissists cannot ask for forgiveness
Masterson (1981) points out that narcissism can occur to varying degrees. At the bottom of the scale is what we consider "normal". People who are at this level have in some ways controlled their self-esteem. However, at the other end of the spectrum we find a diseased state called narcissistic personality disorder.

People with narcissistic personality disorder need to build and monitor their inflated self-image. It is their way of protecting their fragile and broken interior. More than anything else, they want to project infallibility and superiority.

What happens when narcissists commit a crime? What happens eg When their partner accuses them of being disrespectful or selfish? The truth is simple: narcissists cannot take responsibility for anything. Otherwise, they would have to confront the image of perfection as they strive so hard to dwell.
Narcissists want everyone to agree with them and do not tolerate any contradictions
Andrew P. Morrison is an expert on narcissistic personalities. In his introduction to Essential Papers on Narcissism, he claims that the main goal of the narcissists is to find a "mirror person". In other words, they want someone who always agrees with them.

Narcissists prefer to socialize with people who constantly remind them of their merits. They want everyone to be like the mirror Snow White's nasty stepmother used. Every day the mirror told the queen that she was the one who was most beautiful in the country.
If you tell narcissists about how they have made mistakes or hurt someone, it is almost impossible to persuade them to ask for forgiveness.
The reason for this is that they do not know any debt. Narcissists lack empathy. Therefore, they simply cannot understand why another person feels hurt or worried.
Moreover, since narcissists see relationships as a means of achieving a goal, they see no problem in telling the other person that it is their problem.
As you probably understand, this kind of dynamics can easily ruin a romantic relationship.

Narcissists make you think it's your fault
We know that narcissists do not apologize. Therefore, the situation can become even more complicated and contradictory.

It may not seem so, but narcissists also find it difficult. They suffer a lot, because they always feel frustrated and bitter. Their low self-esteem makes them constantly struggle to embrace the greatest weapon and the most impressive trophy.
Their need to appear perfect and effective in addition to their vanity, often causes them to run straight into the wall to a reality where one does not tolerate this kind of attitude.
If you ask for a narcissist to ask for forgiveness for a particular situation, he will make you feel like it was your fault. Why? Because he does not understand, because he looks different on situation or because people will think he is vile or cunning if he apologizes.
Without realizing it, a narcissist can go to counter-attacks faster than you can blink. Don't forget that narcissists are skilled at manipulating. Therefore, it may end up being the one who instead apologizes.

What do you do with narcissists who can't ask for forgiveness?
We should recall what we have previously stated. There are many different kinds of narcissists. At the top of the spectrum we find narcissistic psychopaths. These are people who seem completely functional and normal. But they are also very good at hurting others emotionally.

Narcissists need professional help. They need therapeutic interventions that help them with such things as antisocial thinking, self-esteem, the illusion of superiority, acceptance of their own shortcomings, empathy, etc. They must become fully aware of how they hurt others with their behavior and attitude.
If you need to deal with narcissists in your daily life, then you only have two options. You can either act respectfully or not. Furthermore, you can help them change their minds and seek professional advice, or you may consider disregarding them.
Many cases depend on the type of narcissism. There are large variations along the spectrum. So don't give up, because there are many different solutions. If you have a family member, a partner, or a friend who presents these traits, help him understand what effect his actions have and urge him to seek help.