5 tools for solving problems and conflicts
Our lives are haunted by problems and conflicts that surprise us. Sometimes we leave them with a sense of gratitude, while others sometimes look different ...
This sometimes causes us to ignore a problem or conflict and pass over it. But that does not mean that the problem has disappeared, nor does it eliminate the anger we and others may know.
"He who dominates his anger dominates his worst enemy."
-Konfucius-
Today we are going to talk about the resources we have at our disposal to solve these problems, which often paralyze and prevent us from moving forward.
1. The problem is there, don't ignore it!
As we have already said, we often ignore problems around us in the hope that they will disappear over time. Ignoring our problems does not save us from them.
Ignoring problems can cause them to disappear for the moment, just to emerge in the near future or make us live in a continuous stage of trouble and conflict.
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We should see the problem and try to find a solution as soon as possible. The speech "eyes that do not see, heart that does not know" does not belong in this situation.
2. Change old ideas to new ones
Most conflicts and problems arise because of old ideas in our heads that do nothing but prevent new ideas from entering.
The more time we spend fixed on an idea without giving us the opportunity to question it, the more problems and more conflicts we will have to deal with. But why does this happen?
Being sure of the validity of our ideas instead of eliminating or replacing them with new ones makes us believe that they are true, even if reality is that they are actually foolish. This will inevitably create problems because we believe that we are safe when we actually make mistakes. Listening to the opinions of others is fundamental to helping us adopt new ideas that enrich our minds.
3. Visualize your future
You should be aware that the way you visualize your future will affect how the present is. If you visualize a negative future, the present will be much less positive.
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What should you do? Think positively, visualize the situation without the problem and make an effort to find a solution. You should never look back; only forward.
Changing the way you see things will help you be more positive. Don't let your problems control your life and determine whether things are going well or bad. You have the power to visualize a recovery, confront your conflicts and find a solution.
4. Stop treating yourself badly!
We cannot deny that problems and conflicts between two people can degenerate into violence, in every sense of the word. But what happens to our internal violence?
It is not just the situation that is violent. There is not only misunderstanding and anger. We exercise violence against ourselves by suppressing emotions like anger and by not verbalizing certain opinions.
Poor treatment of yourself is nothing but a ticking bomb. Your internal violence will not be good for the conflict you are trying to solve. All this trapped anger will come out in one way or another, which will create even more conflicts.
It doesn't mean you have to start shouting and showing your anger at any time. But you should try to stop being others and be yourself.
5. Congratulate yourself and others when you can
Many conflicts are really difficult and require a lot of effort because we usually deal with people we love.
If so, the solution is very simple. You know that everyone makes mistakes, and to offer sincerely encouraging words, such as "I know you made a lot of effort" or "you've done all this yourself" can be a solution to problems that can prove themselves.
But there are also words that you should say to yourself. Don't wait for someone else to tell you; do it yourself! You are aware of your own efforts and your hard work. This will also help you to be aware of the work that other people do.
Recognizing your own efforts will help you understand the efforts of others. Conflicts and problems hurt both you and other people. Conditions will be damaged, anger will occupy your life and your health will be affected. Never ignore conflicts; confront them.
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